You want to be respected, but you are not sure how this whole thing works. The key here is to stop focusing on you,and start thinking about others. How can you help others? How can you inspire change, growth, and innovation? When you think about the people you respect deeply, what do they do differrently from the average person? While you are thinking about that, here are some of my own tips.
1. Be relentlessly proactive….
Don’t always wait for direction from others. Use your own skills and resources to start getting things done and solve problems. Get in the habit of figuring things out for yourself. Don’t be afraid of a challenge once in a while.
2. Keep your promises….
This is by far one of the most important actions you can take to start gaining respect. If you took commitments lightly in the past, don’t do that anymore. Always honor commitments and promises. If you find yourself having a lot of trouble with that, it means you make too many promises you can’t keep.
3. Stop apologizing…
People who are constantly saying, “I’ m sorry,” without giving it a second thought are usually not the ones that are well respected. There is a time and place for apologies. Sometimes you make mistakes that affact family and friends. You can apologise to them. Meanwhile, stop using the word “sorry” a hundred times an hour for every little thing that goes wrong, especially in the workplace.
4. Don’t waste other people’s time…
If you respect other’s time, they will also respect yours. This includes not being late for appointments, not spending meetings talking about useless things, getting to the point fast, bringing up issues right away, being succinct, and of course, making it easier for others to make decissions, especially when they are busier than you.
5. Stop gossiping immediately…
Always act as if the person you are talking about is right there with you. You need to respect others, even if you don’t like them. Everyone has desirable and undesirable traits. Realize this and talk behind people’s backs, you and your reputation will quickly become irrelevant.
6. Stop being too nice…
Distinguish kindness from always having to do things for people. Trying to make everyone happy won’t get you very far. Being a pushover is higly undesirable if your goal is to be respected. If you are too nice to everyone all the time,some people might even think you are not genuine.
7. Practice humility…
You are not always going to be right, and you are not the best at everything. Every person you meet can teach you something. Confidence doesn’t come from a place where you are the best. True confidence comes from understanding humility, and that every person has something unique to offer to the world, including you.
8. Have a moral code..
Many overlook this important little piece of advice. What do you believe in? What’s important to you? What makes you mad and want to change the world? These kinds of questions will get you to be core of your own personal moral code. Figure it out and share it with the world in small amounts. All the great leaders of the world get a clear moral code.
9. Be open-minded..
At the other extreme of having a moral code is to remain open-mainded. Being open-minded is not complicates, nor is it in conflict with having a morel code. It simply means that you acknowledge that you still have so much to learn, and you continue learning from others, even if you have a strong core belief system.
10. Add real value…
Whether you are part of a community, a company, a group of friends or a team, you will be respected if you always think of ways to offer value to others. Value can come in many ways, but in the end it’s all about offering something to the world or to your community that can help by solving a problem for them. If you create something of value, people will respect you.
11. Always do your homework…
This means do the due duligence. When you are interviewing someone, do the background research and find out everything you need to know to make an effective interview. When you are going to a job interview, make sure you have done your homework about the company and know what their needs are. When you are talking to friends, listen and retain information from the conversations and remember things that they care about for next time.
12. Be inspiring…
You can be inspiring by talking to others about your passions and goals without holding back. You can be inspiring by endlessly encouraging others to follow their dreams,goals,and visions, and showing that you have faith in them.
13. Learn to say “NO”…
Don’t fell guilty about saying no once in a while. Don’t worry about missed opportunities either. You don’t need to agree to everything that someone asks from you, especially if it is a superior or a client. Sometimes, you are more respected by saying no, rather than agreeing to do a thing. When you say no, you show you are not afraid of admitting that you value your time, and that you don’t have time for everything.
14. Believe in your ideas..
Don’t discard your ideas, evenif they seem funny, weired,or unorthodox. Embrace your creativity and follow through you will achieve something great, and others will wonder how you came up with such a unique idea. The thing is, most people are afraid to follow up and implement them, because they seem too far-fetched.
” BEFORE YOU GET REPECT FROM OTHERS, FIRST RESPECT YOURSELF AND ALSO RESPECT OTHERS”